ON AVERAGE, IT takes men 5.4 minutes to ejaculate, according to research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. So that’s just five minutes of pleasure, from the time we enter to the time we pull out. If that sounds a little short to you then keep reading because we have three sex tips that will take you from five minutes to pulling all nighters.
Before we get to the tips though, let us say if you’ve put your trust in pills or “natural” remedies before, and they’ve let you down, don’t worry because you’ll find none of those here. Instead we’ve sought the advice of a doctor to teach you how to control your urges.
Don’t worry if it takes you a little bit of time to get the hang of these methods. It’s not about finishing first, after all. “Try to keep cool about the situation. It usually improves with time, and ‘performance anxiety’ just makes matters worse,” says Dr Keith Hopcroft.
3 sex tips to help you delay ejaculation
1. Get your squeeze to squeeze
There are a couple of practical things you can do to ensure a longer lay. Wearing a condom, for example, may reduce the sensitivity enough to solve the problem, advises Hopcroft. “An alternative is to try the ‘squeeze technique’: a firm squeeze of your penis with finger and thumb just below the bell end when you think you’re about to come will stop it happening,” he says. “She, or you, can repeat this as often as necessary and, in time, you’ll learn to control yourself without the squeeze.” Of course, as you should make clear to her, you’ll need plenty of practice.
2. More intense orgasms
Once you’re lasting a respectable amount of time, for furniture-breaking orgasms your body needs further training. By delaying ejaculation and letting tension build to higher and higher peaks before the final explosion, you’ll have an all-over-body sensation. You can prepare outside of the bedroom by exercising the pelvic muscles at the base of the penis.
These are what you squeeze to stop urinating, but they also stave off ejaculation. Give them a workout by squeezing them in and out 15 times, twice a day. Gradually increase the frequency to 75. It can be done at a bus stop, or even during a meeting: just don’t announce it.
3. Breathe easy
Also, focus on breathing. Try using a “puffing” technique, whereby you “huff” out breaths while making love until you feel your diaphragm contracting to expel air. As you feel an orgasm coming on, you’ll be trained to force out each breath. The result is more tension around the abdomen, meaning a more intense orgasm. Alternatively, try the simple ice method. Simply wrapping ice in a cloth and applying it to your testicles before sex can intensify your orgasm. Just remember not to use the cubes in the post-sex glass of water.
This article originally appeared on Women’s Health UK.
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