Let’s be real: It’s easy for a long-term relationship to turn stale, which is why I’ve created an official roundup of allllll the things that belong on your sex bucket list. You’re gonna want to bookmark this baby.
First, let’s review why you should have a sex bucket list in the first place. Spicing up your sex life helps keep your entire relationship fresh and exciting, says Janet Brito, PhD, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist. “Novelty makes couples long for each other.”
That said, mixing up your sex routine is something you should do for *you,* says Brito. If you’re not down to try something out, that’s cool! Just make sure you’re regularly checking in with your partner to make sure they’re satisfied with the sex you’ve been having together, too.
Now for the grand reveal: Keep reading for 100 (yes, 100!) things that belong on your sex bucket list. Enjoy!
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1. Have sex all over the house
Brito suggests taking sex beyond the bedroom. That includes the couch, the kitchen table, and, well, anywhere else you can think of! Uh, just make sure the kids and/or roommates are gone, obvs.
2. Be a teen all over again
Okay so this isn’t necessarily full-on sex, but finding a parking spot and making out in the car like teens can be super fun, says Brito. Not into PDA? Just keep the car in your driveway.
3. Read erotica to each other
Find the steamiest erotica you possibly can and read it out loud to each other to set the mood, explains Brito. Feel like it might be a li’l awk? That’s fine, laughter can also lead to sex.
4. Bring in a third party
Yes, threesomes are a big step, so read these threesome stories before you take the leap, and make sure to discuss some ground rules with your partner.
5. Have phone sex
Yeah, seeing each other is great. But hearing your partner’s sexy AF voice on the other end of the phone, telling you all the naughty things they’d be doing to you right now? Also great. (P.S. Here’s exactly how to have phone sex without feeling awkward.)
6. Watch porn together
Watching something sexual can be the perfect way to get ~in the mood~ for actual sex. Choose a video together, or each of you can pick your own to share.
7. Give anal sex a shot
Yes, butt stuff can be fun if you do it the right way. Take things very slow, have looots of lube ready to use, and enjoy.
8. Try out different kinds of lubes
Speaking of lube, there are tons of lubes out there: all-natural, silicone-based, CBD, you name it. Try adding different ones to your repertoire (each kind adds something different), and see which you like best.
9. Play with ice cream
Use ice cream for temperature play by taking spoonfuls and circling them around each other’s erogenous zones. Plus, it’ll taste good (and look super sexy) when you lick it off.
10. Roleplay
It’s fun to be someone else for a little while. Ask your partner what kind of role play they might enjoy and choose a night to act out your parts. And no, it doesn’t need to be super complicated. Like, maybe you two could pretend to be strangers that just met at a bar or while on a beach vacay. It’s truly up to you.
11. Buy a sexy board game
Game night, but make it hot. Don’t know where to find one? No worries. Women’s Health compiled a pretty kick-ass list of sexy board games that’ll heat up the bedroom.
12. Get wet and wild with shower sex
Shower sex isn’t as simple as it looks, but if you’re willing to give it a try, the payoff can be major. Start out by getting hot and steamy under the showerhead while kissing, then you can move things to the bedroom when you wanna finish.
13. Try ASMR sex
What is ASMR sex, exactly? The short version is that it’s all about finding an auditory or visual trigger that turns you on.
14. Moan a lot during sex
Did you know that moaning during sex can make you have a better orgasm? When you moan your throat opens, your breathing slows, and your pelvic floor muscles relax, which can lead to a totally mind-blowing finish. The more you know!
15. Take up ice play
It’s like that whole ice cream trick, except with ice cubes. A bonus? Cubes give you more control over where you run those ice-cold temps along the skin, and there’s way less cleanup involved.
16. Do all the dirty talk
If dirty talk isn’t already a part of your routine, it’s time to add it in ASAP. Dirty talk may feel unnatural at first, but once you get into it, it makes everything you’re doing that much sexier.
17. Have sex via webcam
If you’re in separate places (or if you just feel like being in separate rooms, hah), try giving your partner a sexy show on FaceTime (or whatever video app you use). You guys can masturbate at the same time, take turns, talk about all the things you’d do to each other, and so much more.
18. Pick out some vibrators
Let’s face it. Using sex toys like vibrators while you’re getting it on just makes sex that much hotter. Shop for one (or two… or three…) together to ~build up some anticipation~ and then try them out in the bedroom the **minute** they arrive.
19. Break out some costumes
They’re not just for Halloween! If you haven’t added sexy costumes to your role play sitch yet, it’s time to do so now. (Just picture your S.O. in that hot nurse outfit!)
20. Have a sexy scavenger hunt
Create your own scavenger hunt and make each clue a sexual act, says Brito. You can hide different hints around your home, each with a sexy task like ‘makeout for one minute’ or ‘plant a few neck kisses down your partner’s neck.’ The prize at the end? Well, that’s up to you.
21. Buy a pair of handcuffs
A pair of fluffy handcuffs are the perf way for you and bae to add some light bondage play to your routine.
22. Stock up on flavoured condoms
Protection is always key. But why not also add some flavour (literally) to your condom use so that protection tastes yummy, too?
23. Play with hot wax
I’ve already addressed the ~chilly~ side of temp play, but what about the hot? Here’s exactly how to drip melted wax (safely!) onto your partner (or onto yourself).
24. Sext up a storm
Texting all the #dirty things you want to do when you see each other next is the ultimate version of foreplay.
25. Give blindfolding a try
Use a tie, an extra t-shirt, a sleep mask, or invest in an actual sexy blindfold. The anticipation of your partner running their hands and mouth all up and down your body but not knowing when or how they’re going to do it is super hot.
26. Maybe choking is for you
A little bit of (consensual!) choking, gagging, and breath play can be waaaay fun. Just make sure you have a safe word and establish boundaries beforehand.
27. Share your sexual fantasies
C’mon, everybody’s got a few. You and your partner can swap fantasies and then decide if, where, and when you want to give them a shot, says Brito. Communication is everything.
28. Have birthday sex
This is your moment to make sex even more special than usual. Maybe you can even surprise them by walking into the room wearing your birthday suit (wink wink).
29. Experiment with BDSM
If you’re not familiar with BSDM, at the most basic level, it’s an acronym for multiple categories: bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism, all of which occur in a judgment-free and consent-based zone of trust. That’s a lot to take in, so if you’re not sure where to start, here’s a beginner’s guide to BDSM.
30. Have sex in every state
Make it a goal of yours to get it on while visiting every state in the country. (Major props to whoever achieves this one.)
31. Do it in your backyard
Got a yard all to yourself? Lay down a blanket (or don’t) and get to #werk. Bonus points if you have a pool!
32. Have morning sex
Rolling over and getting it on first thing in the morning is all kinds of awesome. Is there really a better way to start your day than with an orgasm?
33. Build a fort in your living room
Build a fort in your living room. Once you’re done, you can celebrate by cosying up and getting it on inside.
34. Make sex last as long as you can
Ever heard of tantric sex? It promotes intimacy with deep breathing, connection, and delayed orgasm. Basically, you try doing everything you can to make your sex session last as long as possible. Check out these tantric sex tips for beginners if you’re intrigued.
35. Buy some butt plugs
If you’ve never tried a butt plug before, now’s the time. You’ll never know if you don’t try! Do some online shopping with your partner to see which kind you both might like. Trust me, there are sooo many options.
36. Dildos, dildos, and more dildos
Add some dildos to your sex toy inventory (because why not?) and put them to good use.
37. Have sex by the fire
Lighting a fire will definitely set the mood. Make things extra romantic by adding some wine and sexy PJ’s to the mix, too. Don’t have a fireplace? Pull up a fireplace video on Youtube, turn on your heater, and do your best to make believe.
38. Do it on a washing machine
Make sure your machine is on so she gets to feel allllll those vibrations.
39. Get out the whipped cream
Draw designs on each other with the spray bottle. Then comes the fun part: eating it all off!
40. Put on a sexy show
Sit your S.O. down in a chair and offer up the lap dance of their life. Once you’re done, you’ll be all over each other.
41. Make a sex playlist
Everyone knows that a playlist can make or break a sexy experience. Spend time with your partner crafting the perfect playlist, press play, and enjoy the fruits of your labour.
42. Recreate your fave movie sex scene
Just be honest. It’s from Twilight.
43. Recreate your fave book sex scene
Again. It’s from Twilight, isn’t it?
44. Recreate your fave TV show sex scene
I have a few in mind. (All of which are from Normal People.)
45. Masturbate in front of each other
Sure, masturbation can be a private thing. But it’s also super hawt to watch each other get off, too. It’s also a great way to learn more about what your partner likes and doesn’t like.
46. Do it in a (private) pool
Please don’t try this one in public, hah.
47. Netflix and chill
This one is truly a classic. Either put on the steamiest show you can imagine (or just press play on the series you’re currently watching), then see how many episodes you can get through before you succumb to sex.
48. Do it while fully clothed
You’ve had sex while naked tons of times. Try keeping as many articles of clothing on as you can. Not being able to fully touch each other will be veeery sexy. Promise.
49. Try the bathroom floor
Picture this: You’re having shower sex (or a steamy bathroom make out) and you’re both ready to finish off. Take things to the rug and get that final orgasm.
50. Have sex to the beat of the music
You already made your sex playlist. Now, grind against each other to the beat of the music. (Choose your songs wisely here, lol. No one wants to pull a muscle.)
51. Make-up sex
So many emotions!
52. Use a vibrator made specifically for couples
Need ideas? Check out this list of the best sex toys for couples.
53. Write a sexy letter
You’re feeling all the horny AF emotions right now. Put those feels into words by writing your partner a super-detailed, sexy-as-hell letter about everything you want to do in bed. Hand it to them when they’re least expecting it and see how they react.
54. Only have oral sex
Penetration gets all the love but really, oral’s where it’s at. Focus only on oral tonight.
55. Try making out for as long as you can
Again, penetration is fun and all. But try kissing for as long you can before you just have to have sex.
56. Do tons of dry humping
This one will bring you back to high school, lol. (Plus, it feels amazing.)
57. Suck each other’s non-sexual body parts
This one can feel awk at first but getting your toes, knuckles, ears, and chin sucked kind of tickles (in a good way).
58. Buy allll the lingerie
Finally, an excuse to add all the Savage X Fenty goods to your shopping cart. What makes you feel sexy?
59. Then, do a striptease
One by one, slowly take each item of clothing off your bod. By the time you’re totally naked, you’ll both be dying to touch each other.
60. Use a pillow designed for sex
These are like special wedges that help you reach the right angles for absolutely ah-mazing sex. See here for a list of the best sex pillows out there.
61. Have sex while eating
Yes, you can literally feed each other while having sex. It’ll feel super good and it’s tasty. Win-win situation here, you guys.
62. Sex while enjoying champagne, strawberries, and cream
This combo is kind of a classic, so it’s worth trying at least once.
63. Have post-workout sex
I mean, you’re already sweaty!
64. Do some Kegel exercises
Practice this every day, then try doing some Kegels during sex. It’s supposed to feel pretty damn good.
65. Have a vacation sex
Not that this wasn’t on your list already, but relaxed sex is the best sex.
66. Buy some nipple clamps
Are you a fan of nipple stimulation? (Same.) Get your hands on some nipple clamps and add them to your sex routine stat.
67. Try having an orgasm by only touching your nipples
Nipples are a major erogenous zone, which means that yes, touching them in just the right way can lead to having a totally awesome orgasm.
68. Make a video
Feeling extra hot? You could film your sex sesh and save it for watching later.
69. Get a waterproof vibrator and take a bath together
Or alone. Whatever you’re feeling, really.
70. Do it in a hot tub
All those warm bubbles and pulsing water jets will put you right in the mood. You could even get in naked straight away. (And again, only if it’s private!)
71. Have a photoshoot
Set up your self-timer and take some erotic pics with your bae (or alone). You’ll feel so horny after taking all those arousing pics that you’ll be all over each other.
72. Have sex in the back seat of a car
This one will bring you back to your teens, too. Just don’t get caught!
73. Go to a sex party (alone or with a partner)
Wondering what it’s like, exactly? Read this piece about sex parties and self-esteem to make sure it’s for you.
74. Have sex in a hotel room
Splurge on the fanciest hotel or Airbnb you can and have tons of sex in those luxurious bed sheets.
75. Have sex while standing up
This one seems easy but tbh, it can be hard to master if your heights don’t match up perfectly.
76. Invest some time in 69-ing
You’re both in a super vulnerable position, so it’s the ultimate bonding experience.
77. Try reverse cowgirl
Yeehaw. Reverse cowgirl is fab because her booty will be right in your face (which is super hot) and she’s in complete control of the pace and rhythm.
78. Try having sex while sitting in a chair
One of you sits in the chair, the other does all the riding.
79. Have some afternoon sex
If you’re both working from home, why not squeeze in some afternoon delight in between meetings? Just fix your hair before your next video call.
80. Give each other massages
Like a massage, but make it sexy. So yes, you can work your way down to the crotch area, too.
81. Use massage oil
Want to spice up that massage? Add some oil to the mix.
82. Do a lip gloss taste test
Get her to gather all her glosses with some flavour, apply them to her mouth, and make out with you while wearing each one. At the end, you can decide which is your fave, annnnd you can finally have sex.
83. Touch each other under the table
Having dinner with your friends or on a date at a restaurant? Make it sexy by sitting side by side and touching each other underneath the table.
84. Only use your hands
Make each other come **only** using your hands. That’s right, no kissing, no oral, and no genital penetration of any kind. Enjoy.
85. Be as quiet as possible
Try having sex while being totally silent. You’ll want to let out a moan but you simply cannot, which makes things even hotter.
86. Be as loud as possible
After you just stayed quiet all that time, go in for another round and be as loud as you freakin’ want.
87. Try a remote-controlled sex toy
Wear the remote-controlled sex toy while you’re out and about and your partner can control all the vibrations for you from the comfort of their home.
88. Buy a toy you’ve never used before
You know you’re curious. Just order it already.
89. Have sex with all the lights on
Embrace all the angles and let it happen. I mean, what are you ashamed of?
90. Have sex with all the lights off
Sometimes not being able to see each other makes things even steamier. If you’re short on blindfolds, lights-off is pretty much the next best option.
91. Do it in your walk-in closet
Got a walk-in closet? First of all, lucky you. Second of all, go get naked and use it for a new, sexy spot.
92. Make art on each other with body paint
Drawing on your bodies with paint can be a super sexy bonding experience.
93. Pull your partner’s hair
Like things a little bit rough? Then some light hair-pulling is for you.
94. Have doggy-style sex
Did you know that not staring into your partner’s eyes makes it easier to orgasm? (Hint: It’s because there’s less pressure on you.)
95. Have sex on a boat
Unless you get seasick. (In which case, don’t.)
96. Try another type of finger play
Stick your fingers in your partner’s mouth during sex or vice versa.
97. Incorporate some spanking
A light (and consensual) slap on the booty can amp up the passion in any sexual experience.
98. Camp out and do it in a sleeping bag
I guess you can pull this one off inside, too.
99. Take sex hiatus
Make a *point* of having an uber-passionate sex sesh and letting your emotions spill TF out by *delaying* sex as long as you can.
100. Missionary sex, baby
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being old school. Once you’ve tried the other 99 things, this will feel a lot like coming (hehe) home.
